Conversation surrounding adoption is often defined in terms of how long the wait has been. For Adam and I, it has been 26 months since we attended our first informational meeting about adoption. It has been 21 months since we submitted our formal application to an agency. Our homestudy has been approved for 16 months, and we are now beginning the process over in a new state. The wait begins again as we sift through a new pile of paperwork and move towards approval here in Connecticut.
Discouraged yet? It is certainly tempting for me to slip into despair when I look at the facts! I need to trust, with every ounce of my soul, that this period of waiting, and our experience thus far, is intentional and full of purpose. I need to trust that this process, with all the emotional up’s and down’s, the unforeseen changes, and the countless “I’m sorry, they have chosen another family for this child” has a deliberate purpose for us. This purpose is unique for Adam and I, and ordained by a God who is faithful, and knows exactly what we need.
Twenty-six months after we began praying about domestic adoption, we are still waiting to meet our child(ren). We are hopeful that it will happen one day, and pray that time is coming soon. Until then, we continue to wait, and trust, and pray boldly for the Lord to grow our family.
This experience has reminded me that I can’t be naïve to think that I won’t be waiting again for something else sometime soon. We are a waiting people! All of life is a sequence of events that requires waiting. For the believer in Jesus, our greatest “wait” is for our Redeemer King to return and rescue His bride.
Jesus has promised that He will return and rescue those He has redeemed. This is great news, and should fill the children of God with immense joy and hope, despite our circumstances! In Matthew 24:36, we are told that “concerning the day and hour no one knows, not even the angels of heaven, nor the Son, but the Father only.” We are also reminded, in verse 42, to “stay awake, for you do not know on what day your Lord is coming.” We are waiting for our final rescue, and the Father knows the day and hour. It is coming! Let that bring you great hope, as you continue to labor, and suffer, in this fallen world.
As our wait continues, my heart must choose to look past the broken child welfare system, the mounds of paperwork, and the discouragement from not being chosen to parent a precious child yet. There is purpose, intent, and beauty in the wait. One day, dear believer, our faith will become sight. I can hardly wait.
“For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation for all people, training us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives in the present age, waiting for our blessed hope, the appearing of the glory of our great God and Savior Jesus Christ, who gave himself for us to redeem us from all lawlessness and to purify for himself a people for his own possession who are zealous for good works.” (Titus 2:11-14, italics mine).